The year is already beginning to pass by, and with it, so are many people’s resolutions to keep staying on top of the goals they set in anticipation of making positive changes in 2021. What is it about the date of January 1st that causes people to think that is THE day to get a fresh start? We can actually make the choice to create a habit any second of any day. It just takes making a decision. That in itself is no easy task, but once you have made the decision, changes begin and new habits are formed.
Making light, half-hearted “goals” to start on January 1st fail for the majority of people for numerous reasons. One reason could be the fact that we try to cram in every large, life-shifting goal at once. How can we be expected to achieve such drastic change at once? Who can sustain pressure so great as that? Let’s focus on the smaller steps needed to create new habits and goals instead of pressuring ourselves unrealistically to make such drastic changes so quickly. Why do we not give ourselves the grace to let it happen within our own time by setting realistic goals that are attainable and trackable?
The goals or resolutions we set can instead turn into a mindset shift to create new habits as opposed to the scenario that the gates open on the first day of every year, and we all take off as fast as we can after those goals only to run out of steam, inspiration, and motivation prior to achieving them. Creating new, small habits with a plan to add to them over a period of time will= make the larger shift of changes in our lives become more attainable. Creating new habits means you are now creating a new standard for yourself. Knowing who you are and what you really want will be key to your success.
What is a habit and what does it take to create one?
Healthy habits can be additions of positive activities and mindsets or deductions of negative things or people who impact your life. Accountability partners can be key in helping you achieve your goals or obtain new habits. They can also help hold you accountable to keep from slipping back to the bad habit that has a negative impact on you. There are also several online apps you can use for goal setting and tracking.
Create a new standard, not just a new goal
“Don’t set goals, set standards” - Ed Mylett
Another really great way to look at habit-forming is knowing we can expand the parameters and boundaries of our mindset around creating a new standard of living. Embody what it looks like. List your goals in a written format, look at them, and start envisioning what it looks like to achieve them. Literally, what does that look like to you? What does it look like to you to experience wealth? What does it look like and feel like to be healthy? To be fit? Creating the standard of only accepting health, wealth, and abundance causes a domino effect of changes to begin to happen in your life. If you want to be wealthy you have to be healthy enough to pursue the opportunity. You simply can’t wake up early enough and put in the hours and energy needed to build if you are not healthy or getting enough sleep. So we have the go back to our daily habits and really take a hard look at them. Are you going to bed early enough to be able to wake up when the majority of the wealthy and healthy people are starting their day? If not, what do you need to change to be able to go to bed earlier? What can you fit in your life and what do you have to deduct to make what you want to fit have a place? Once you implement the changes you need to make to achieve the small goals, the big goals will begin to naturally fall into place.
Goals by themselves are better than no goals, but be grateful. When you’re grateful you can stretch further in your life which means you can reach more. I hope this helps you to start shifting the way you think about goals and resolutions and you come to the realization that you can make a change or a difference at any point in your life as soon as you determine who you are, what you want, and how you’re going to get it.
Maybe we can’t have it all, and we simply have to prioritize what is going to make us the healthiest, best versions of ourselves we can be.