Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and many of us are scrambling for those last-minute ideas to gift our loved ones. Frantic thoughts may be flying: Where should you eat, should you grab flowers or chocolate, what gift can you give that says the words you never take the time to say?
But does love need to cost money and does it take a particular day to show it; or is that something that our society has ingrained in our minds? To me, it’s reminiscent of New Years’, in that New Year’s Day is the day to reset and create new habits while Valentine’s Day is the day to express your love to your partner. Creating new habits or expressing love and emotions can be done any day of the year, not just on token days.
Showing your love doesn’t require the pink heart-shaped boxes of candy put out to the masses as a symbol or expression of love. You aren’t required to be the giver or the recipient of a beautiful rose to have a successful Valentine’s Day. Spending money on unnecessary items like these may make a person feel good and there is nothing wrong with taking pleasure in receiving these gifts. I just hope we take the time to show our appreciation to our loved ones more regularly than holidays such as this.
Holidays like this lull us into false security and can give a passive way out of communication and lead to a dishonest peace. If we treated every day like Valentine’s day, would you still go the extra mile to pick up those flowers or wake up earlier to make the coffee and prepare breakfast? If every day was a day to show a loved one how you feel, would you still want to make it a truly special day for that person? How we treat each other daily is so much more important than how we treat each other on one day.
If we take the time to consider one another, there are so many ways to show we care for our family, loved ones, and friends on a daily basis. Some ways are simple, like saying good morning, asking each other how we are feeling, or taking care of a task to ease a load for a partner. Caring about another person’s experience and asking how you can make it better is yet another way of showing love. Other times, it’s more in-depth like rearranging your process for someone else’s to help integrate each other’s wants and needs into the fold.
Don’t get me wrong, Valentine’s Day is a fun concept; I have fun with it, and I hope you do too. I simply ask, why save it all up for one day when we can overflow our lives with abundant love daily? If you’re already overflowing with love daily around your partner, friends, and family, I would love to hear some of your tips below. Let’s share the love! I hope everyone has an amazing Valentine’s Day, and I hope your cups runneth over every, single day.